For the 36-year-old, who placed sixth successful play 21 of the creation contention successful 2015—her hubby yet placed fourth—it was important for her to specify her dynamic with spouse Mark Ballas. And the aforesaid went for Carlos and his partner Witney Carson.

“I emotion Mark,” she emphasized. “We got on great, but if it was ever flirty, I'd conscionable beryllium like, ‘I don't bash that.’ I was a small mean, but it was lone to acceptable bully boundaries and we figured it retired and we ended up having a truly large partnership.”

But Alexa—who shares kids Ocean, 7, Kingston, 5, and Rio, 3, with Carlos—also recognized that those boundaries weren’t the easiest for others connected the show.

“I cognize it was truly rocky for everybody due to the fact that erstwhile we went connected the show, we said, ‘Look, we're a joined couple,’” she recalled of their conversation. “‘You guys are our partners and we are truthful excited to squad up with you, but that doesn't mean we ditch our matrimony and this becomes our No. 1. Our matrimony is inactive first.’” 

Despite trying to enactment parameters successful place, the duo did look obstacles successful their matrimony during their clip connected the ABC contention show. 

“We were inactive learning truthful much,” the Sleepover histrion said. “Carlos was truthful jealous and battling his insecurities. I felt similar I had to beryllium determination for him, truthful I conscionable felt bushed down. He didn't bash thing bad, but if you spot your spouse not feeling bully oregon feeling jealous, adjacent though determination was nary crushed helium should person felt that backmost successful the day, it took a toll connected me.”

And portion of that was Alexa feeling pulled successful truthful galore directions. As she recalled, “I conscionable retrieve going location each nighttime being truthful exhausted and being similar ‘I can't beryllium what Mark needs maine to be. I can't beryllium what Carlos needs to request maine to be, Like I can't beryllium what the producers privation maine to be.’”

Despite the drama, she is inactive grateful for the experience. 

"The amusement is truthful amusive to watch, and it feels good,” she said. “I emotion the premise of it. It's conscionable the behind-the-scenes tin beryllium tough, but it was arsenic hard arsenic it was amusive due to the fact that determination were really, truly precocious highs.” 

While Alexa and Carlos shimmied disconnected the dancefloor 12 seasons ago, support speechmaking to spot who has dazzled with their regular this play connected Dancing With the Stars.